While talking on the phone with a friend yesterday, the topic somehow shifted to words and phrases. She ended up saying, "There are definitely some words or phrases you just never want to hear or say."
CANCER
After my breast cancer diagnosis in October 2016, I found it nearly impossible to say the word "cancer" without feeling a surge of anxiety. I needed to inform my family and friends, but even thinking about that word made me feel so anxious that I nearly felt like throwing up. Over time, I became more comfortable with it, but another word emerged that became even harder for me to say.
METASTATIC
In 2020, a biopsy revealed cancer in a lymph node, and while my doctor avoided using the term "metastatic," I sensed that was the case. When I finally asked, he confirmed, “Yes, it's considered metastatic. It’s not currently curable but is treatable.”
UNDERSTANDING METASTATIC BREAST CANCER
Metastatic breast cancer, or stage IV, is when cancer spreads from the breast to other parts of the body. My doctor said that having metastatic disease doesn’t mean all hope is lost. Many treatment options exist, and new medications are always being tested, allowing many people to lead long, fulfilling lives.
My doctor explained that even though I'm in remission, a small dormant cell remains in my body. To prevent its spread, I take Verzenio daily and receive monthly Faslodex injections. We monitor my blood for white blood cell counts, which can drop due to the medications, but my numbers are currently stable.
Managing Negative Thoughts
I generally feel pretty good and no longer feel nauseous when I hear "metastatic." I know that it’s totally normal for negative thoughts to arise occasionally. Accepting this helps me navigate the tough days I face while dealing with cancer.
Coping Strategies
Managing difficult days effectively requires varied strategies. What works one day might not be effective another.
When negative thoughts overwhelm me, I try to balance my spiritual, social, and physical health.
Here are some techniques I have found beneficial at times.
- Talking to a friend or family member.
- Getting outside for fresh air and a walk.
- Enjoying a good book or movie.
- Finding humor in challenging situations.
- Joining a support group, online or in person.
- Eating a big chunk of fudge. (No judgment, please!)
- Praying.
While I've had some success with the above techniques, nothing soothes my soul and relieves some of the stress like prayer.
Reaching out to my faith and support groups helps me handle things better on this journey.
